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Why I tell people I love them

(Tere Ruiz Rodarte, Living in Mexico) Permanent link

By Tere Ruiz

 

When I was around 8 years old, I met my friend Maria who became a sister to me.  Ever since then, we’ve been Friends Forever and much more.  Sharing wonderful times of play while kids, lots of romantic stories while teenagers, and joyous moments while raising our children.

 

Maria My FriendMaria and I went school together and we also went to the fair, traveling, partying, and much more.  When Maria and I were 35 years old, my dear friend was expecting her third baby and while giving birth to her, she had a thrombosis.  Her baby made it to this world on time, but my friend was very sick.  I really don’t remember how long she stayed in the hospital, the only thing I remember is that we couldn’t visit her there.  The information regarding her health would filter drop by drop through her maid, her husband’s secretary, or anyone who could reach her mom or someone for a couple of minutes on the phone.

 

I remember I used to cry all day long thinking of my beloved friend Maria and her three children who were about to lose their mom.

 

Finally some weeks later my friend came back and recovered miraculously from the thrombosis.  But of course it was months until we could finally reach her and have a “normal” conversation with her, if possible.

 

I recall that about 6 months later I finally was able to get to visit her in her house.  She was finally back to normal and she told me everything that had happened to her during those months.

 

When she was finished, I asked her to listen to my side story and how much I had suffered during those times.  When I was finished, I promised to her and to myself that I would always tell her how much I loved her from then on.  And I asked her to tell her children our story together, so they would know that they would always count on me and that I would always love them too.

 

I guess, in my despair, I lost the shame and fear to let everybody know that I love them.  And since that day, I love much more and I let everybody know how much I love them.  And it feels so right! 

 

I recovered lots of my “loves” from my life and I’ve “collected” many, many beloved ones since then, as a gift from Living in Lake Chapala and I’ve discovered that saying “I love you” is like a key that opens the heart of the people and that it is quite contagious.  Yes, it is contagious, because now, I have no shame or feel embarrassed to say “I love you” and I always get a lot of “I love you too!” back.

 

Is there anybody you love and haven’t told them so?  This is the right moment to do it, and it is so easy and priceless.  I am sure that if you have come in a Focus on Mexico Program, you already know that.

 

What I learned of this experience is that the most important thing when you say “I love you” is that you give a gift of love to the people, but you also give yourself a gift of joy, and guess what?, most of the times you also receive a gift of Love, back.

 

 

So just in case, we don’t get to see each other soon, I send you all my love, till we meet again or till we ever meet and become beloved ones.

 

 


 

Bio for articlesTere Ruiz-Rodarte: Director of Research and Development FocusOnMexico.

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